Tattoo Number 9 – But what makes a good tattoo for a mom?

What tattoo do you want and where would you put it?

A stylized tattoo of a Queen Bee with a Crown
My Queen Bee 👑 🐝 For my Aunt who passed 💖

This is one of those questions to ask myself often. As someone who got their first tattoo on their 18th(I almost left this as 8th and not 18th, ha!) birthday, I have quite a few, and want a ton more. Tattoos are akin to that haircut you get when your boyfriend leaves you. You know you need to do SOMETHING, and it’s something that’s kinda big, but also meaningful or empowering to you.

I’m not saying every tattoo has to be for your Grandmother or for your mom’s birthday or whatever symbolic idea you have. Some tattoos can be fun, for the hell of it. I mean we only live once, right? (YOLO…or whatever the kids say these days…I’m literally always a generation behind on the slang….I’ve become one of those moms.)

But tattoos are such a fun way to decorate the body. They show who you are as a person in a way not much else can. They have a way of letting your soul shine on the outside of your body, instead of just the inside.

My Current Tattoos

Personally I’ve gotten most of my tattoos at large changes in my life, or for some significant meaning. (Not that I don’t have a “For fun” tattoo, I totally do) But those have been the times I’ve had to scratch the itch, and do something drastic to my body, to show the world (and myself) that something large enough has happened in my life that I need to permanently make note of it. On my body…in my skin.

I’ve gotten a tattoo for turning 18, one for when my first husband left me out of the blue (a story for another time) one for when my Aunt passed away and a matching tattoo with my brother and one with my cousin. I’ve gotten a tattoo with a friend from high school who I now only speak to on occasion. (She has since converted hers.) So many of my tattoos have a meaning, or at least had a meaning, at the time. But I don’t regret a single one, and someday when I have a little extra money, I can’t wait to get another.

What tattoo will come next?

And although I know what my tattoo will be for, (Yup, this one has meaning!) I can’t for the life of me decide what it’s going to be of. I know I want a tattoo for my daughter. For my incredible little Lorelai. I was thinking of a Bee at one point, as it’s symbolic of my Aunt who passed, and because bees always seem to pop up on places of importance in my life, even when there’s zero reason for a bee to be there.

The reason behind a name.

And yet, we named her Lorelai, from the German name for the Siren of the sea, who lures fishermen to their demise. This may sound a little sad or creepy, but as a Feminist (especially in 2025…IYKYK) it feels fitting.  I know my daughter is strong willed, sharp as a tack, and honestly funnier than most adults (and she can’t even talk yet!) I plan to teach her that no matter what life throws at her, to never let a “man” stand in her way.

Here is a link to the story of Loreley if anyone is interested!

https://visitworldheritage.com/en/eu/the-loreley-rock/7b9a0bb3-18b3-44da-907e-e9861d3f831b

So would a siren tattoo be more fitting? I’m starting to think so. Something beautiful, yet slightly scary. Maybe based on the original German legend perhaps? A Beautiful maiden upon a rocky cliff? Or maybe stick closer to the more simple mermaid legends? Time will tell, and we’ve got plenty of time. If I did a mermaid of some sort, I’d absolutely want it to have a “frame” and be on my calf. So at least I got the placement down.

Tattoo of the cartoon character Lisa Simpson, choking Bart Simpson
My brother and I have these matching tattoos (his is Bart choking Lisa 😂) It’s very fitting for us.
A tattoo of Pigsqueak and Snapdragons in an illustrative style.
These are some flowers I got because I found them beautiful, and I wanted them to go with my Queen Bee. They are “Pigsqueak” and Snapdragons. Both native to Maine and also both beautiful 😍

How my Meal Planning saves on Groceries!

Meal planning, while kinda tedious, saves us SO much money! We were spending $200+ a week on groceries. And it just wasn’t sustainable. We all know the price of groceries is crazy. And if it’s not the price going up, it’s the size of the product going down.

So my husband gave me a challenge. Could I get a weeks worth of groceries for $70-$80? Now let’s be honest, this isn’t happening EVERY week. But I feel like I’m usually between $85-$150 I’m really proud of that number. I also got a Costco card for Christmas so this is where I go to get a lot of our day to day snacks, like granola bars and Edamame and even Frozen Pizza. (I haven’t calculated the cost of Costco into the budget yet as we’ve only on once so far, but I’ll update once we get into a routine.)

I also only have myself, my husband, and our 15 month old to feed. She’s still breastfeeding so she only actually consumes so much regular food throughout the day. But I’m super lucky that she will try literally ANYTHING!

Alright, so how do I make my Meal Plan? How do I know what to cook, when to cook, how much to cook? This all changes by the week. But it’s also part of how I’m able to save on groceries. So keep reading to see my process. (It’s not that hard, I promise)

  • Step 1: Make a list of all food in the house.

And by all, I mean the things I’d generally use/need for most cooking. I note down if we have Milk, Eggs, Cheese (an important staple in my house) Do we have any meat in the fridge or freezer? What vegetables and fruits do I have? Do we have pasta, sauce, rice?

Please note, I’m old school. I’m an elder millennial, I still make lists on paper. Important things get done on my computer instead of my phone. I make a grid, one section for Fridge, one for Freezer and one for Pantry. Then I do the same at the bottom of the page for what we DON’T have. This way, when I move to the next step I don’t forget what we need.

So now I’ve got my lists. Now’s the time I get my laptop.

  • Step 2: Check the weekly Grocery flyer for what’s on sale.

This is the tedious part. I buy my groceries at 2 different stores. While it makes life a little harder, it saves me at least $10 a trip! I buy all my center store groceries (boxed goods, pasta sauce, shelf stable goods) at Walmart. Now like, real take here, I didn’t shop there for YEARS. I didn’t love some of their corporate policies. But with only being on one income, I need to save every dollar I can, and shopping there is how I make it possible. I will also on occasion buy my meat in a “family pack”. Then I freeze it into separate dinner portions and take it out as needed. This helps me keep my grocery price down the rest of the month.

I get all my produce, meats, and dairy products at Hannaford. It’s a grocery chain in the North East. (They are owned by the same people as Food Lion, if that helps for a comparison.) So I look at the Hannaford flyer and have tabs open on my computer for both Walmart and Hannaford. As I find what’s on sale, this is when I decide on a recipe, if I havent cooked with it often, I’ll look up a recipe. Luckily for my husband, I’m a pretty good cook. I did a semester of Culinary classes in college. (I suggest people take a cooking class if they are able, just getting the basics makes a Huge difference.)

This week ground Turkey was a good price so I figured Turkey Burgers would be good! (I made Tacos with ground turkey last week so I didn’t want to repeat this). Kielbasa was on sale, but its not something I cook with often. So, I did what we all do, I googled a recipe! I found a sheet pan Sausage, Broccoli and Potato recipe and figured that sounded great! Easy peasy. I also already had frozen shrimp, so Shrimp Scampi is an easy fix, and all I need is a small bottle of wine!

Something helpful if you’re not a super confident cook is to start with a few staples. (And I don’t mean a bowl of cereal) Learn how to make Spaghetti with meat sauce. You don’t even have to make the sauce! (I buy jarred and Zhuzh it up!) Tacos are an easy meal that everyone likes! You can use hamburg or turkey or chicken! I always add extra spices then just the taco mix. You could make your own seasoning mix if you wanted as well! As you get more confident, you can change up your dishes a little at a time, or branch out and make something similar. Make your own garlic bread for your pasta night! Make a burrito instead of tacos!

Once you feel a little more confident, you’ll be able to branch out into new dish’s and new ingredients! This will help you as you get your groceries as you’ll have more ideas for what you can cook out of what’s on sale. Even if you look up a recipe, you can always use it as a guide, and make it your own! I do this often!

I hope this was helpful! I’ll update again as we figure out Costco and how that affects the budget. I’ll also post recipes as well! Feel free to comment and let me know if this helps, or if you have anything that works really well for you!

Click Bait and Terrible “Advice”

Saving money on Groceries. (And how I actually save!)

I had these two articles suggested to me lately in my “News Feed”, and honestly I find them SO frustrating. They are absolutely click bait (shhhh, they baited me…I know). But I’m always curious to see if I’ll get that one little tidbit of advice that ACTUALLY works.

But let’s be real, the good stuff is few and far between. And almost always NOT where I expect to find it. I get the whole, play the algorithm, SEO, get clicks business. But to try to suggest some of these things as ways to save money is deceiving and can be down right dangerous if people take this as advice.

I find misleading information is much too prevalent and can be extremely damaging. Especially when that information spreads and people are misinformed. The article about a family of 7, surviving on one teacher income…come on now. Unless their mortgage was paid off and they had zero bills, this isn’t feasible.

They also have livestock, which not many people have, or can afford to just get and start taking care of. The two things that REALLY get me though, is that the dad had to get so many more jobs he hardly sleeps. This isn’t healthy, it’s also not sustainable as hes going to get burnt out, he may cause an accident going to or from work.

Then, to say they save money by EATING LESS? This isn’t something you put in an article about how you feed your family on a tight budget. Yeah, she said maybe it’s not the best idea, but she’s on a weight loss journey and that’s how she justifies it. Not getting fast food is a great idea, but follow it up with bringing snacks from home instead. She has a garden, bring fresh veggies, she could make jerky from the meat she gets from her livestock.

What about some ACTUAL ways to save money on groceries? Or on other things to help offset the rising cost. I mean, a dozen eggs is $7! I know we could all use a little help in that area. While I can’t save you on the price of eggs (Unless you wanna buy Chickens, but I’m no expert in that area. But I did see Tractor Supply has chicks in. You do you.) Maybe some of my ideas can help you.

This, this right here is the MOST IMPORTANT thing that I do to save us money on Groceries? I make a Meal Plan! This took us from over $200 every week-week and a half, down to $100-$120 for a week-week and a half. That includes me, my husband, and our 15 month old Toddler. Now look, I can’t guarantee your results. It does take a bit of planning, research and a bit of cooking know-how.

So if you’ve followed me this far, I’ll link my Meal Plan guide so you can see if it may help you!

Painting my Kitchen Cabinets! – Ambitious, yes. Worthwile? Questionable.

Describe the most ambitious DIY project you’ve ever taken on.

You know when you’re scrolling the internet looking at all the beautiful pictures of people DIY and you’re like “PFFTTTT, that looks EASY. I could do it with my eyes closed!” That is me. For every DIY project I take on. And look, I worked in a hardware store for 10 years. So needless to say you pick up some skills after being around building supplies that long.

I’ve re-upholstered furniture, I’ve refinished an outdoor table into a beautiful new patio piece. I’ve installed NUMBEROUS laminate and LVT floors.  I’ve even changed the alternator in a car with a YouTube video. I’ve never been afraid to give a DIY the old college try. (So long as I have the right tools)

But man, refinishing cabinets….I’ve done it twice. I. 2 houses. And while satisfying when done, it NEVER looks Pinterest good. And for all the hard work, the cleaning, the sanding, the sorting of the hardware so you don’t loose the screws, the getting the doors back on correctly (these were old houses, with original cabinets). Even new handles, just look like a better version of what it was.

And it’s not necessarily a bad thing. Better IS better after all. And sometimes we just can’t afford a 20K+ new kitchen ya know? (And this was even a time before eggs were $7 a dozen! ) So I suppose in the end, yeah it was worthwhile. It looked nicer and made the room a hell of a lot brighter.

All in all I LOVE a good DIY. And I’ll keep doing DIY projects as long as possible. Plus, I’m too proud to pay someone to do something I KNOW I can do. Even if it does take me twice as long! You never know until you try, and if you don’t try you’ll never know!

Enjoy some random DIY projects I’ve worked on!

My updated cabinets! See…they look…fine. better than the super dark brown that they WERE. I wish I had a before image.
I also did the countertops! Which I actually was fairly happy with!
I made this headboard!
I spray painted so many things during COVID quarantine 😅

I hung these shelves and made my bathroom feel a little fresher with my (*ahem* fake) plants.